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Episode 45 - Lucky by Jackie Collins

So. Wow. This book. Lucky Santangelo is a boss businesslady who Has Sex.  A whole lot happens in this book - everybody gets married six times, at least one hotel is opened, dirty deeds are done on yachts....  I honestly do not know how I could possibly describe the plot.  I can  tell you that if you are sensitive to literally any content whatsoever you should not read this book because it has it all .  Child brides!  Rape!  Child rape!  Gratuitous dead babies!  Everybody has sex with everybody else's dad!  Racism!  Fat shaming! The idle rich!   Just say no to drugs, kids ! This is one of those books that has a super boring US cover - you can tell looking at the front that the back just has a picture of the author and "fiftyeleven bazillion copies sold!", that it's about rich people, and that if you want to read it you already know about it. BUT there are also some international covers that I know you are very interested in .  All of which are frankly more descriptive

On Language and Consent

So.  Trashy romances often have... let's go with "issues" with consent.

A lot of people have very good reasons to not want to be ambushed by a book that depicts nonconsensual sex or sexual violence, or to stumble into a podcast that's discussing fine gradations in either.  We want to make it very clear exactly what you're getting into with each book or podcast so you can make an informed decision.

Many, many romance novels include scenes where a woman verbally or nonverbally does not consent to sex, but she changes her mind during the course of the encounter and enjoys the experience.  In real life, this is obviously rape.  In a book, this can be a fantasy - obviously a very popular fantasy, one that many women enjoy.  When we talk about this kind of fantasy nonconsensual encounter, we're going to call it a "ravishing", so you can tell the difference.  There's nothing wrong with enjoying this kind of fantasy, and it doesn't mean you don't know the difference between it and reality.  

I've read a ton of books about sexy vampires over the years but if a stranger in a pirate shirt and a ponytail tried to bite me in real life I'd mace him and call the cops.  We know you're smart enough to know the difference between fantasizing about being "talked into it" or being asleep or having a "no no no yes YES!" encounter in a stable with a guy in a kilt versus actually having any of that happen to you.  But some people definitely do not want to read about ravishments either, so we're going to be very clear in our labels.  Some people might not want to read a book where they experience this content viscerally but are completely fine with listening to two tipsy rednecks talk about it.  That's cool too!

Some books also have actual rape in them; romance authors have a horrible track record of using rape as a lazy way to introduce trauma either in the narrative or the backstory, some use it well and sensitively, and some think they're writing about a woman getting ravished but are actually writing about a woman getting raped (I'm talking to you, The Flame and the Flower.)  If a book has content that's about sexual assault, not a fantasy, we will be very clear in the episode description and here on the website, ESPECIALLY if it's written in a way that we suspect it was meant to be sexy.  

If we get it wrong, let us know.  We'll also note clearly when a book has no consent issues at all, so you can easily find them.  And sometimes we'll (gasp!) be reading books where nobody actually has any sex, and we'll give you the heads up there too in case you need a Christmas present for your meemaw.

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